Adapt or perish is a phrase commonly attributed to HG Wells.

The phrase ‘Adapt or die’, expanded its meaning in Spring 2020. We are all forced to adapt to the crisis that is COVID-19. There are lessons to be learned.

Our brain is significantly adaptable. We benefit when we build practices that support its capacity to learn and adapt to change.

We learn and grow when we are willing to explore our patterns, habits and behaviours. They often open up significant insights.  We have a choice. A choice to be willing to move those insights into action that creates the change we desire.

“All failure is failure to adapt, all success is successful adaptation.”    – Max McKeown

The 2020 theme of identity continues with this week’s focused exploration. Often identity is used as a reason to not adapt. However, and identity that embeds the capacity to adapt is the healthiest.

In the Kickass Koach podcast episode dropped July 12th, I make the point that adaptability is not the same as refusing to commit or stick to something. Furthermore, I point out the importance of recognizing that learning and adapting in order to complete a goal productively is a core point.

In the newsletter, I introduce a three step approach to adapting when a new solution is warranted. A simple example from my COVID-19 experience is used to illustrate the model that I will dig into differently below

Finally, in this post I take a fresh look at McKeown’s quote while diving into the importance of recognizing triggers or antecedents, finding the initiating driver and committing to adapt appropriately.

 

Adaptation is inherent to being Human

Adapt or perish, now as ever, is nature’s inexorable imperative,” is actually the full quote attributed to HG Wells.

Essentially in 1945 Wells reminding us that change is inevitable. We must learn to adapt as the world moves forward or be bulldozed by progress. Historians outline countless examples, beyond comprehension. We benefit when remembering that  when we fail to learn from history, we are doomed to repeat it.

In the newsletter I shared a simple example of how, during this pandemic I applied my three-step model to changing my outcomes when I noticed I was experiencing nausea every afternoon. I mentioned we are less likely to act when the reward is delayed. This pandemic is a flashing red light, reminding us that we rarely adapt intentionally and thoughtfully. We need constant reinforcement, shining a light on the need. It’s the marshmallow experiment, come to life.

While adaptation is inherent in the human condition, we fail at every turn. We let circumstances just happen to us. Then we take credit, when we survive.  Evolution happened to us. We eventually stopped moving on all fours. One day we stumble onto fire and observed the benefits of using round objects to move heavy items. Eventually these objects carried us every where.  Our brain, with the production of cooked food, developed a limbic system so we expanded our capacity to connect more deeply with others. With this superpower, we learned to collaborate to survive since we weren’t the strongest or fastest animal.  Over time, this brain adapted further, developing the cerebral cortex. This contributed language, writing and complex thinking and problem-solving skills. We could now record and learn from the past. Still we are led around by that primitive brain, failing to learn the lessons.

 

Adapt by Identifying the Antecedents to Patterns

Antecedents are tricky. They are the trigger or primer that inspires a certain behaviour or pattern. Moreover, we can use antecedents to adapt when we learn to quickly recognize what’s around the corner.

To beat or crush COVID-19 we first needed to understand the antecedents. That is spreads through droplets. It is expanded by close contact with people who are infected. This means they carry it in their droplets. And, it is exacerbated by poor hygiene practices.  The problem, as usual, is two fold and simple. We are slow learners and we don’t like being told what to do. This sounds like kindergarten. Essentially it is this easy. What we learned in kindergarten is important for the entire of our life.

Listen and learn. Be kind to others. Wash hands thoroughly and often. Cover the mouth when coughing or sneezing. Of course there are a few other guidelines that seem unnatural. This includes, keeping our distance, no hugging or handshakes. The mask requirement is hard too but falls under the “be kind” lesson.

 

Adapt Not to Fit but to Evolve

Many people adapt, not to grow, but to fit in. We want to belong. It is essential, of course. Collaboration and cooperation are built on the human need to belong. Social researcher, Ray Baumeister, says that everything we do is motivated by our need to belong. This may be why it is so hard for us to adapt. Often, we are inspired to adapt by the thinkers who refuse to pander to the limited thinking of the masses.

I think of Greta Thunberg. Typically she is loved or despised. That is the common experience of those who push us to adapt before it is essential. Dr. Fauci in the U.S.A is that person for the pandemic. He is loved or despised.

 

Life is one big Experiment

HG Wells inspired creative engagement in the world. He saw life as one big experiment. Max McKeown additionally, reminds us how failure awaits us when we fail to learn from our experience.  A person with an experimental, curious or growth mindset is destined to challenge everything.

Continuous learning and fresh insights are the goal of the experimental approach. What will the evidence teach us? Moreover, this approach is generative in addition to being iterative. With an experimental collaborative approach, we may find progress is faster and we go further.  In collaboration we can crack this, but only together with a willingness to learn and honour the data and the stories will we arrive where we seek to go.

We may be capable of more closely monitoring and learning from our choices and decisions and build capacity to adjust our actions to meet the current situation. Then, we may influence how things unfold. There’s a difference between wanting something and making something happen. With the mindset necessary to perform under pressure we’re able to influence results more deeply. This mindset that relies on clarity, curiosity and a resilient spirit we accept no excuses, only meaningful results. Furthermore, it’s essential we learn to evaluate the risk of any action, removing the very human emotions that cloud our judgment.

Walk with me.

Walk with me to build the skills to adapt when needed. Together let’s examine options consciously and authentically to make choices that move us strategically toward where we want to be.  Where may client wants to go is my paramount focus. Strategy is a about choices. Execution on these choices requires masterful performance. Furthermore, a well-developed process allows us to enjoy the journey far more fully

 


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  1. My interactive exercise to begin reducing the impacts of stress and feelings of overwhelm will be sent.
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  3. Special offers will be available to subscribers monthly including: a random offer of a complimentary one hour coaching conversation, access to roundtable engagements and group coaching on identity and related subjects, as well as information on an initiative on which I’m collaborating: #FeMasCon.

Adapt with the skills learned with Bank Your Impact (BYI)

Adapting is living and breathing the growth mindset. Adaptation isn’t really a choice. The choice lies in getting ahead of the requirement to adapt by building the skills in advance. Staying ahead of the curve is how we leverage the knowledge that change is part of life.
The BYI system helps participants build the strength to engage when challenges appear. It’s an approach focused on identifying options, making wise choices and committing to influencing desired outcomes. Furthermore, it takes a systematic and experiential approach to influence the outcomes we produce. Moreover, becoming aware of who we are being and how it produces the results in our life is a consequence of the choices we made and how we execute on those choices. Ultimately, creating the life we want starts with the  actions we choose to take.
To get what we truly want in life, we need to be willing to persist, seek help, and continually look for transferable learning opportunities. Additionally, we need to be willing to question our choices and expand our options through healthy curiosity and a search for unique perspectives. Moreover, identifying and nurturing our identity is the place to start. A healthy meaningful and full life is made possible with clarity about our values, beliefs, patterns and habits. Additionally, our quality of life is influenced and shaped by our unique blend of strengths and inclinations. Undoubtedly, a growth mindset and open-minded approach are foundations to sustaining this healthy sense of self.
The System

The Bank Your Impact (BYI) System is about both developing and embedding self-awareness. Furthermore, the benefits of expanded resilience, connections built on understanding the impact of belonging and an ability to bolster a professional and authentic presence are foundational. Perhaps more than the other two, developing a foundational resilience is critical to with standing that which moves us into burnout.

The current system incorporates 1:1 coaching, roundtable conversations; eventually I’ll add a neuro-social learning experience (currently only available in organizational contracts but will be added to the system for individual engagement in 2021). My approach is based on the ICF (International Coaching Federation) standards. I’m meeting you (my clients) where you are, both as the coaching agreement begins, and in the moment that exists at the time of each conversation. Progress or growth is not a straight line. The ICA model is the framework for every conversation: Issue/Insight, Choice/Commitment, Action/Accountability. Over the past year I’ve been tightening the model to meet the needs of my clients.

Holding space to support my clients in:
  • Developing meaningful insights
  • Expanding/deepening perspective on those insights
  • Building/designing a practice to try on new ways of being/seeing OR experiment for discovery
  • Assessing progress, becoming agile in transfer of learning and application before developing additional insights
An organic experience

The experience is tailored around what you bring to each conversation, in my experience, there are common themes that arise including: self-awareness, mindfulness, mindset, communication, connections, and attitude. Self-awareness stands alone but is also a foundational theme. I have registered upwards of 40 sub-concepts that fit under each of these categories. Furthermore, I bring tools, skills and techniques to respond and guide our work together, informed by positive psychology, neuroscience, and management/leadership research.


Walk With Me, to Where You Want to Be

In all my blog posts in 2019, you will find this section outlines what brought me to this area of focus: supporting people in the early to middle part of their career as a #performance #coach.

You can read more about my work and my in the About Me section of the website and below is a recording of my #bigwhystory:

 

Feel like you’re living someone else’s destiny?

If that’s working for you, great. If it isn’t or it starts to be a problem, reach out. I welcome a conversation.

Willing to do the work to find more meaning?

With the skills to unpack the emotions and barriers and triggers and mindset challenges with the skills in my BYI system, participants begin to see the impact in their career and finally begin to discover what matters most to them. The bonus: they begin to see a path to get there. Join me…   My system is intended to be meaningful, relevant, accessible and affordable. With that in mind, there are many ways to engage with me. Below are TWO ways to start, without spending a dime.

 

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Walk with Me!

 

  • BOOK a complimentary exploratory 1:1 conversation 20-30 minutes.
  • SUBSCRIBE to my mailing list. You’ll receive an interactive exercise that you may use to reduce and manage stress or feelings of overwhelm. PLUS each week you’ll receive my podcast and reflections in your inbox AND you’ll be invited to monthly webinars and roundtable conversations.

In closing, I love bringing learning experiences to workplaces that are interested in raising their performance and encouraging their people.

  • Book me to speak at your conference or to a group in your organization. My workshops on building resilience, improving workplace outcomes through relationships, and increasing performance are big hits! In 2020 I’ve added a few workshops on gender engagement – how, by knocking off the boxes that limit us by gender we all find our capacity expands.Love